Posted on : 10-12-2009 | By : Sadie Smythe | In : open marriage
I have an announcement to make, and I bid you to imagine me divulging it with a faraway look in my eyes and spoken softly with the hushed but excited tone of a silly schoolgirl announcing her latest crush before she gleefully grabs her markers to emblazon her Trapper Keeper with the news; the latest discovery of her heart.
I met someone.
Yes.
I met someone.
I’m not sure I can accurately describe this someone, because the complexity of this someone runs deep. But, this someone is cool, smart, sexy and superfun to hang out with; even if those descriptors sound somewhat trite. What can I say, I succumb to trite on occasion. This someone is also quite kind and is very generous, but has no qualms in telling it exactly how it is. This someone is Polyamorous, and is, in fact, very knowledgeable in ways of the Poly lifestyle. And therefore, this someone has a lot of insight into how Polyamorous relationships can work successfully.
This someone is practically a Poly professional.
You know how I wrote the other day about those irritating fairies that keep sprinkling their damned crisis dust all over the heads of Hubby and me and a host of other unsuspecting folks? Well, it turns out that there are good fairies too, and this someone that I have met is one of them.
I call her my Fairy Fucking Godmother.
And that she is.
And it seems as if she has been sent to Sadie from the benevolent Poly gods above to share her wisdom, and I cannot tell you (or her) how grateful I am for that. She has helped me see how Hubby and I have made some common mistakes when we moved from being open to being Poly, and how those mistakes may have caused some unintentional hurts. She has helped me see that we weren’t necessarily prepared for Polyamory, but she has spoken to me about how to get prepared for it, as well as the reasons why we should. And she has helped me see that, if Hubby and I are to be Poly, that it is imperative that I consider, thoughtfully, everyone involved. It isn’t just my show any longer; it’s everyone’s.
And there’s more that I have learned under my Fairy Fucking Godmother’s brief, but impressive, tutelage. Much, much more. She’s been great for me, and to me, and I anticipate having many more discussions with her about Polyamory and all of its intrinsic complexities.
But I felt like an introduction to this new someone was necessary. Because I hope that she will not only continue to be my Poly mentor, but will also become a good friend.
>So, while I am searching for my markers, please say hello to my Fairy Fucking Godmother!
Proof positive that good fairies do exist.
Hey Sadie! Love your blog, so glad you have a fairy godmother, and can’t wait to hear what advice she has! Please, share the wealth!
yay for good fairies!
Sounds good!
wow! people come in and out of our lives as we need them. We need to be willing to let them in and enjoy what they have to offer our in life, as well as let them go when the time comes.
Sounds like this lady has indeed come at the perfect time.
Do we even want to know what she sprinkles you with?
She is your Fairy fucking godmother. Came to you when you needed her the most.
Kisses.
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God, what is wrong with me? The second I heard “Fairy Fucking Godmother” I started envisioning a fantasy featuring Sadie, Hubby, Andrew and HYG, plus a hot woman in a fairy costume. AUGH.
Glad you’re getting some good advice from her! Anything that helps you work out the kinks in your kinky relationships is a good thing.
– PB
Oh I love the good fairies! This is indeed good news!
I’m glad to hear that a good fairy came into your life when you needed her. Sounds like she gave you a lot to consider. Hopefully, when you feel it’s time, you will share some of her fairy dust with your readers…
~Emmy
Life’s funny that way, sending us what we need when we need it most. I’m glad to hear you have received some much-needed GOOD fairy dust. Many times I have wanted to comment on what you’re going through, as seen thru the eyes of a poly vs open relationship structure, but haven’t felt “qualified” to do so, and so have only sent my good thoughts, and hugs your way. I am so happy that you have found someone to help you negotiate these sometimes tricky waters.
(hugs)
Jade
It really is helpful when you have someone who is a kind of coach, isn’t it? So much terrain is new and scary and its a blessing to find someone that’s tread it ahead of you.
Sadie, luv your blog!
So glad for you both – always good to have a mentor/sherpa or FFG
She’s a marvel, she is.
WONDERFUL news Sadie! Can’t wait to hear more.
XO