We decided today that our marriage is over. We will begin divorce proceedings after the holidays.
That is such an odd thing to type in the text space of this blog. It feels terribly surreal, as if someone else is controlling my fingers as I type. I didn’t even know what a blog was just four years ago, and now here I sit with over over 900 posts and close to 8,000 comments in my Dashboard.
Who’d have ever known?
Certainly not me. But what do I know, I didn’t think I’d ever get divorced. I have always assumed that we would be married until one of us died.
But that is not the case, and lest you think our marriage’s demise is as a result of our openness or my writing about it here or in my book … it is not. There are reasons far and wide for this transition, none of which I am at liberty to share nor inclined to even if I were.
And so I will say goodbye. This blog has officially become irrelevant. Incongruous. Discordant.
However, please know that it is likely you haven’t seen or heard the last of me. I am a writer, after all. I imagine I will pop up here and there around the web, and who knows? Maybe one of these days I’ll co-opt another slice of cyberspace about something else that interests me.
Is there anything besides sex and relationships that interest me? Hmmmm… I’d have to mull that one over a bit.
I will be leaving the blog up, for now anyway, because I think it serves as a resource for some people looking for information about open relationships. And remember, just because this particular open relationship didn’t work doesn’t mean that they can’t work. It only means that this one didn’t.
Sometimes shit just doesn’t work.
So, until then, please feel free to track me down on Facebook, on Twitter, hanging ’round my BedPost Confessions shows, over on my open relationship consulting site, or simply send me an email. I’d love to hear from you, to keep in touch with those who’ve been stopping by regularly, and to continue making new friends.
Because that is what it’s all about, isn’t it?
Adieu!
Love,
Sadie
I’m sorry to hear that and hope it’s all for the best. What is more exciting (thrilling, terrifying, trembling with potential) than a new path, after all?
You both have my sincerest best wishes. I’m very sorry it didn’t work out for you two.
– PB
Shit does not always work, this end to your blog’s journey is very disturbing to me, it left me feeling disturbed. I thought you had it figured out, now I don’t think I know fuck all.
Can’t wait for you to start another blog, because you right this title is not relevant anymore. Your next one could be called “hot incredibly beautiful sexy woman who kisses and tells”
kiss
The truth is that she’s right. Sometimes Shit Doesn’t Work. It doesn’t mean that we don’t have things figured out or know fuck-all (sometimes both are true at the same time), only that the complicated algorithm of having things figured out, while connecting to someone else’s things (which may or may not be figured out) while connecting to life, family history, circumstances and so forth…well sometimes shit doesn’t work. Sometimes it does. I don’t know if I find that disturbing so much as I’m trying to see the reality of people as best I can. We are all fallible. Life is messy.
Sadie, you have done a truly lovely thing gifting us with this chronicle. It’s hard work, what you’ve done, being so exposed and vulnerable. You need to keep doing the work of taking care of you, of leading the support of sex positivity, of being honest and connected.
Thank you.
I can assure you that you and your lovely prose will be missed. I am guessing that as you enter the new chapter of your life, you will have a lot to say, and I hope you come back to the blogosphere to say it.
I wish you and Scott the best, and I know that you all will grow and flourish.
Please accept this virtual hug from me. ((((HUG))))
Damn Sadie, you can’t go, you’re one of few people left who has been blogging as long as I have! I’ll miss you here, but hope to continue seeing you on Twitter.
Best wishes to you and to Scott, for whatever the future holds.
I can’t see you going very far away from blogging, but whatever happens, take care!
Thank you for all that you’ve shared with us, your experiences have given me inspiration, hope and guidance many times. Take care.
I remember the gratifying accomplishment when I was ten and stayed up late to witness for the first time “ …this concludes our broadcasting day. We will resume our scheduled programming in the …”.
Point is, all good and bad things come to an end and will miss your brutal honesty with your ability to put pen to paper exquisitely. I wish you, your ex-husband and most importantly your daughter all the very best in life. HB.
Chin
Well, heck. Sorry to hear this. About both the divorce and the blogging.
Best of luck with whatever the future holds for you!
nothing lasts forever. life would be boring if it did. knowing that change is a constant and rolling with it in my opinion brings new Life, new experiences ..fun. we have all done it..holding on a bit too long. we learn and hopefully apply our lessons in the future. so Sadie I’m happy for you. excited for you. what will happen? what’s next? anything can happen. That is a rush. remember this moment Sadie it is the “Death” let go and be reborn.
still would love to have Tacos and Ice Cream one day.
xo Niko
All I can say is thank you.
xoxo
Repeating after SW: THANK YOU.
All the best.
I will miss you.
Natalia
I’ve been getting caught up on your blog, reading a month at a time, and trying not to look at the most recent posts (the equivalent of reading the last chapter of an epic novel). The title of this one, of course, caught my eye and I couldn’t NOT read it.
Because it’s still October 2010 in my exposure to the Sadieverse, I don’t know all of what’s led up to this. But from what I HAVE read so far, I’m learning that you’re an amazingly bright, passionate (and not just in your, ahem, personal relationships), lusty woman. I’m so SO sorry to hear that you and your long-term best friend Hubby found enough fractures to undermine your stability.
Shit happens, life goes on, and even if you don’t want it to, your amazing writing talent will find a home, because beauty (and here I’m referring to the written word) ALWAYS finds a home.
NoCal misses you.
Love to you Sadie! Let us know where you’re at. xx
I am sorry for the loss of your relationship and hopeful and wishing for wonderful things for you in the future.
Your blog has not only provided me with some of the best damn reading out there – you have also really and truly made my marriage better and given me hope when I despaired. This has truly been a gift.
All the best, darling, I will be following you where ever you may go…
Sorry Sadie – But Open Marriages do not work. Humans are not emotionally built for them.
Hope your daughter learns that from your loss
May the sun be at your back and the ground rise up to meet your feet. You will be missed my beautiful anglic friend.
Red
Take Care Sadie. Remember how wonderful you are and how far you have come. I know I don’t comment much, but you’re always in my thoughts and prayers.
Good luck and Thank you, too.
I know I’m reading this a little late, but I still felt the need to leave you a comment. When I first started blogging, I was married to my ex-husband. We didn’t have an open marriage, but I wrote a lot about my life and our life together. When the marriage failed and I announced it on the blog, I felt a huge mix of emotions. I don’t know why, but I felt like I was going to be judged by all of these strangers on the internet for my marriage failing. Everyone showed tons of support for me, which was just amazing. I’m not sure if you felt the same way when your marriage started to fall apart, but if you did, you didn’t show it at all.
I can only imagine how much courage it has taken for you not only to document your open marriage, which inevitably will be criticized, and then write about your marriage ending. You are so, so strong and courageous.
I’m sorry that your marriage didn’t work. You are right though, sometimes shit just doesn’t work. I wish you nothing but happiness, love and laughter.
There’s no reason why you have to stop writing about sex and relationships unless you’re planning to stop having sex or being in relationships.
Good luck in this next phase of your life. Looking forward to reading your next blog, book or whatever.